Help children to get social interaction is on the parent’s role. Sometimes, the children can not build the relationship by themselves. Some of tips bellow can help parent to success the children social interactions.
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- Consider HOW you talk to your child. Children take what they experience in their family relationships to their social interactions outside the home: • talk kindly and respectfully to your child (vs. being demeaning, critical, or sarcastic) • involve children in conversation and discussion, explaining reasons for things (e.g., “Jason, when you run inside I’m afraid you will run into something and hurt yourself. Where do you think you could run safely?”) as opposed to simply giving them “directives” (e.g., “Stop running!”)
- Spend time playing with your child. When parents spend time playing with their child, children learn very important skills in how to play with others. According to Parke (1993), young children learn how to play, how to initiate play, how to express their feelings, how to read others’ emotional expression and social signals through their interactive play with their parents. These skills carry over to their successful play with peers.
- Have conversations/discussions with your child about: discuss what the appropriate behavior for that setting (e.g., “When we go to church we must be very quiet and not use our loud voices”).
- Give children clear rules about how to get what they want or need, and about the use of toys and materials. Children need to know what the rules are about how they can get what they want or need (e.g., “use your words to ask other child or adult”), and for use of toys and materials (e.g., “whoever had the toy first gets to use it until they are finished”).
- Provide active “social coaching”. Children whose parents are active guides when they are playing with others are more likely to learn appropriate social behavior (compared to children whose parents are uninvolved).
- Negotiate with your child whenever possible. Life is about negotiation and compromise! Getting along with others requires good negotiation skills, and there’s no better place for children to learn this than at home. So when you can, negotiate! parent: “Julian, you need to take a bath now.” child: “Ah mom, I’m playing with my trucks. How about in a little while?” parent: “Okay; I’ll remind you in a few minutes.”
- Emphasize cooperation, not competition. Make up cooperative games to play, or have children engage in a cooperative activity with you and/or other children. Talk with your child about how it’s important to help one another. Give young children manageable household chores (e.g., putting napkins on the table at dinnertime, putting their dirty clothes in the hamper, helping you empty the wastebaskets, etc.)